Today I’m talking to my fellow stay-at-home-moms. I’ve been a SAHM for almost 9 years now, and I’ve been through several stages of it.
When my kids were little, bitty babies, there were plenty days when I didn’t shower… I was covered in spit up and poop and food… you name it. I’d have laundry piled up all over the house, I was constantly feeding someone. For a while your body isn’t even just your own because you’re breastfeeding. As my boys have grown up and changed, obviously those things have evolved a little, but the overall theme remains the same. As SAHMs we’re constantly dealing with a whole lot, right?
So to help you remember your worth when you’re in the thick of all that, I have 3 tips that I wanted to share with you today.
Ask God to help you see yourself through His eyes. Your job as a mom is vital, it’s crucial, and it’s a huge responsibility. Sometimes it can feel very thankless, very mundane, difficult, and it becomes easy to get down on yourself. It’s easy to feel like we’re failing when things get crazy… to feel like you didn’t have enough patience, or like you yelled too much that day. But if you can remember to stop and take a deep breath and ask God for help, I guarantee it will feel more manageable. He is up there looking down on you and smiling and He wants you to know that you are worth so much. Even on the days when you don’t feel that way.
Do whatever you have to do to feel beautiful. Shower. Get dressed. Do your hair. Put makeup on… whatever it means for you to feel better about yourself physically, do it. There were plenty of days when my boys were small that I didn’t shower. But taking time for yourself will make you feel better and more confident no matter what mundane task you happen to be performing that day. There is something special about taking care of yourself when it feels like all you do is take care of others. It’s important to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and feel beautiful, even in the midst of a crazy day.
Do something every day that fills you up. What kinds of things could I be talking about here? How about finding 10 minutes to call your best friend and hear her voice and learn about what’s going on in her world? How about taking 30 minutes to watch one of your favorite TV shows while your kids are napping? Maybe it’s reading your Bible. Maybe it’s going for a walk. It’s important to take a little time for yourself. Even if you need to lock yourself in your room for 30 minutes while your husband deals with the kids, that’s ok too. Do something that you love that helps you remember who you are. It’s so easy to wear the identity of mom first and forget who you really are.
One of my biggest dreams growing up was to be a mom, and specifically, a stay-at-home-mom. I get to do that. I thank God every day that I have the privilege of being home with my boys, but it is not always easy. It is not always glamorous, and it’s not always full of happy moments. There are lots of difficult and mundane things that come with that title. The reason I wanted to share these 3 tips with you today is because I wanted you all to never forget who you are, even when your life becomes about everyone else except you. You have to take time for yourself. Remember to see yourself as a child of God. Remember to take care of yourself.
I promise you, if you incorporate these 3 tips into your everyday life as a SAHM, it will make a world of difference in how you feel about yourself and your role. We are not machines that never run out of fuel. We’ve got to continue to find ways to fuel ourselves, and no one is going to do that for you. When we fuel ourselves, we are better for our kids, our spouses and ourselves.
Love yourself through all of it. Give yourself grace. Stay grounded in what matters most. If you are able to do that, the blessings will overflow.
Y’all have a blessed day!