There’s something on my heart that I want to talk to y’all about today. How many of us, and believe me, I am guilty of this, make promises to others and follow through 100%, but fail to keep promises to ourselves?
What about when you make yourself a promise? And remember, I’m being really honest with you here because I’ve definitely been guilty of this before. We make ourselves a promise- maybe you’re going to commit to getting up and praying every morning, or you’re going to work out 5 days a week, or you’re going to really hone in on work and get a ton done… whatever it is. We make those types of promises to ourselves often, but how often are we breaking them? Why is it ok to let yourself down, but not someone else?
It makes me really sad actually, because what it basically translates to is that you value the promises you make to other people, more than you value the promises you make to yourself. There is really something wrong with that picture! There’s a huge missing link. We have got to honor our promises to others, absolutely. But, to ourselves just as much. When we make a promise to ourselves, no one knows we made it, right? So when we break that promise to ourselves, no one knows that either. But we know it. I don’t know about you, but when I have broken promises to myself in the past, I feel like crap. I’m disappointed. I’m frustrated. I’m let down. It doesn’t feel good when you let yourself down. It’s not alright to let yourself down just because no one else knew about the promise!
Honoring the promises you make to yourself shows self-worth. What do you want? What are you working toward? What commitment are you making to yourself? And what are you going to do to make sure you honor that commitment? If you keep making promises to yourself and breaking those promises, you are completely tearing down your self-esteem. We are better than that. In my opinion, we should be honoring our commitments to ourselves MORE than we honor our commitments to others. If you can take care of you first, you’ll be able to take care of others.
You need to notice when you’re absent in your own life. We all need to pay more attention to whether or not we’re showing up and keeping promises to ourselves. Don’t work so hard being reliable to others that there’s nothing left for you. You are stronger than that, you are better than that. I know I don’t like how I feel when I let myself down, so I’m committing to work toward honoring where I want to go. If you think it doesn’t matter when you break a promise to yourself, I’m here to challenge that. What is does is speak to how you feel about yourself. It’s a direct representation of how you feel about yourself.
Every promise you break to yourself is going to make you feel worse. And each time you break one, you’re going to have to start all over building that trust in yourself. It’s just like any other relationship. We want other people to trust us. We want to earn their trust. We want them to know they can count on us. Can you count on yourself? Can you trust yourself?
Please take this message to heart today. Stop and think about the commitment and promises you make to yourself. Don’t make them half-heartedly. Make them and hold them sacred, stay focused and committed to them. Because, you know what? You’re worth it. Whatever promise you’ve made to yourself, whatever dream you have for yourself, you are worth seeing it come to fruition. The more you can honor the commitments you make to yourself, the stronger you’re going to get, the better you’re going to feel. Isn’t that a much better place to be than breaking your promises to yourself again and again?
God wants more for you. You are capable of so much more and you have incredible potential! If you are struggling with this in any form or fashion, ask yourself what steps you can take to make sure you’re honoring the commitments you make to yourself. Put simple, actionable steps into place to make sure you’re setting yourself up for success. Sometimes it’s as simple as saying it out loud. Tell your spouse or your best friend, or even your kids! Ask them to help hold you accountable to the promise you’ve made yourself. Sometimes that accountability can be a really powerful first step to creating a routine that will last a lifetime.
You are amazing. You are beautiful. You are strong. You are capable. You are worth it.
If you can really work toward following through on the promises and commitments you make to yourself, you will be amazed at how much better you feel. You’ll be amazed at how much more you can accomplish. You’ll be amazed at how much your self-esteem improves.
Y’all have a blessed day!