To my fellow Moms,
How many of you struggle with yelling at your children? You know, those times when your patience is tested, your frustration level is high and your nerves are shot! I, unfortunately, have reached this point many more times than I want to admit to you. But, in hopes of providing encouragement and a healthier way to deal with these times, I am putting all my cards on the table.
It wasn’t very long ago, when I was facing a situation with my youngest son that truly had my blood boiling. I was angry and so disappointed. I remember asking Jesus to help calm me down before he walked in from school that day, since I had learned about this situation after he had already left for the day. Y’all, there was a lot of praying going on! A LOT!!!
When he got home, I worked really hard to stay calm, listen, digest his words and learn the reasons why he made certain choices. And then I asked him this question, “Why didn’t you just come to me and tell me what happened?” His answer is what stopped me in my tracks and literally took my breath out of my lungs, and not in a good way!
He said, “Mommy, I don’t have the courage to come and tell you these things because I know you are going to yell at me and I don’t want to be yelled at!”
His words literally punched me right in the gut! But, frankly, it was a gut punch I DESPERATELY needed!
I’m have a fiery personality and can me more reactive than responsive at time. This truth hurt me in my core! I had created this fear in my child! I was guilty of yelling too much and too often. My actions caused my son to think lying would be easier than telling me the truth! OH MY!!
And right then in the middle of this conversation, Jesus provided an idea that has changed EVERYTHING!
The words, “SAFE ZONE” is what Jesus spoke over me.
Since that day, when either of my boys need to talk to me and share something they know won’t make me happy, they say, “Mom, I need a “safe zone” conversation.” And when the say this, I enter the conversation calmly, with an open heart, mind and ear! My promise to them is that I won’t do any yelling at all. They know this doesn’t mean there won’t be consequences for what they share but they can rest easy knowing Mom isn’t going to yell at them.
I don’t want to be a yeller! And I definitely don’t want to be remembered as one when they are grown and gone. This new practice has allowed us to create stronger bonds, repair damage that has been done by my yelling and made me more mindful of the way I speak to my children. I use this with both of my boys to provide a safe, calm and secure environment, without the Crazy, Yelling Mom present. Do I get it right all the time? I wish I could say, “Yes!” but the truth is, no…I still fall short on some days. But when this happens I catch it much faster than I used to and we worked through it together! Because I know, if the lines of communication between us are broken, the struggles and division we would face would be unbearable! And that is not a reality I ever want to live in!
Maybe you can relate! Maybe the “safe zone” can help you in some way with your children, if you struggle with yelling like I have! I believe in the Mom network and that when we share our best practices, we can all benefit in one way or another to be the best Mom’s we can be! My prayer is that this has encouraged you in some way today!
Life is TOO short!
It’s too short to live less than our best! Too short to settle and believing things can’t get better!
6 weeks ago (before UltraCell (CBD):
I was still dealing with hip pain that I had been a part of my daily life for 2.5 years!
I would hit a wall in the afternoon, trying to muster up the energy to get through the rest of the evening.
I felt bloated and “thicker” than I would have liked, pretty much EVERY day and chalked that up to just being a woman!
TODAY (6 weeks after beginning UltraCell):
NO hip pain!
NO afternoon lull!
NO more bloat!
And 4 lbs down! WHAT????
When I say, UltraCell is a game changer, I’m not kidding.
I had heard a lot of buzz about CBD but didn’t take the time to learn about it because I thought it was Marjiuana! I lacked knowledge & education but, now, I have knowledge and I am activating it to not only improve my daily life but working to share it to help others improve their lives too!
What are you waiting for? Your Story is waiting to be written!
I’m here to help!!
Why are we so afraid?
So recently I had a huge revelation! One that literally made me laugh out loud and ask myself WHY?
The revelation was this: If I am NOT selling a product I can talk about it, promote it and share it without the slightest bit of hesitation. But, when I decide to start selling a product, I truly believe in, I feel like I should be careful how, when and if I share it because I don’t want people to think I am an obnoxious network marketer who is only focused on making a buck. Can you relate?
Here are a few examples:
1.) I absolutely LOVE the Rodan & Fields product “Lash Boost”! It has grown my eyelashes like crazy and I never hesitate to share it with anyone and everyone when I am asked about how my eyelashes got so long.
2.) Stella & Dot is one of my all time FAVORITE jewelry lines! I am always wearing a piece I have purchased and proudly share it with anyone who asks; without hesitation.
3.) I’m not a shopper but I LOVE Stitch Fix! I mean for us non-shoppers, having clothes delivered right to your front door is a DREAM come true! Again, I will shout it from the rooftops!
See what I mean? It’s easy when you can share without the risk of people thinking you have an agenda! Right?
Now on the other hand, recently I have been introduced to CBD oil (that is THC FREE otherwise I wouldn’t have considered even trying it). And after first hand experience with it improving hip pain that I have dealt with for over two years, I became a believer! I decided to join the company, because frankly the thought of this product being able to help other people the way it is helping me truly excites me! But I haven’t shared about it yet; hmmmm, interesting.
I’ve been hesitant to share because I don’t want to annoy others or be thought of as an icky, salesperson!
But here is the truth, Yes, I joined the company, Zilis and have a desire to build a business by sharing the UltraCell products because I believe in the products and am living proof of how they could potentially help other people improve their lives. And by pouring in to others, I plan to build a fun and successful career. I’m not sure why I feel like I should hide or feel bad about that fact. It’s crazy!
I do agree that how we share is the key! I’m not in the business of selling anyone. I am all about sharing what works for ME, how my life is improving and my desire to help others who have a desire to improve their lives. Whether a person decides they want to be a consumer or are interested in building their own business makes me no difference, the opportunity to choose is theirs. And my biggest goal is to keep God at the center and just be me, sharing my life openly and honestly!
So, there it is! My revelation…maybe you can relate to it as well!
Here’s a little secret…when you see me share about UltraCell, what I am learning about the benefits of CBD oil and how it is helping me, it’s my story that I hope will help you! I’m not gonna be that icky salesperson….just know if you questions or need help, I am here!
How did this Happen?
When did we begin to allow our worth to be wrapped up in how many people like our posts, follow us, or even publicly give us “shoutouts” when it is our birthday? I mean if it isn’t on Facebook or IG it can’t be matter, right?
I love social media for so many reasons but I also detest it for just as many! I fell in to the trap. For years, I focused on who followed, commented, liked and shared what I had to say. Putting myself as the priority! Wanting to be “known”! It was exhausting! All consuming! And frankly, unhealthy! But I couldn’t see that at the time. My goals were big and I was determined to reach them!
God had much different plans! I was so worried about “others” and myself that I was putting aside the ONLY one that truly matters! And God finally said, “No more, Christy! I will get your attention one way or another!” And boy He has my attention now!
I have been a Christian since I was 7 years old. I love Jesus! But, let me be the first to say, it was WAY to easy to allow my mindset to be so focused on worldly things, that I misplaced HIS importance and my NEED for Him in my life! OUCH! It truly pains me to write this but it is the truth, and something tells me I am not alone!
Guess what? We are KNOWN. We are LOVED. We are ACCEPTED….By our Father in Heaven. And HE is the only one that really matters! Jesus is the purpose! Our purpose, and He should be the main point in ALL we do!
I no longer care how many likes I get! I no longer care if I have tons of followers! I no longer am focused on being known! My name isn’t the name the matters! Jesus’s is! And if one person is encouraged by what God puts on my heart to share then, Hallelujah! I’m successful in what God has called me to do. Allowing God’s light to shine through me so others can, hopefully and prayerfully, be led to Him….that is my point and my purpose!
If you are like me and can relate to what I am saying, stop and pray! Ask God to help you refocus and forget about the worldly things so you don’t miss the heavenly things He has just for you! He sees you! He Knows you! He LOVES you!
Stay true to who HE created you to be!
Raising children is the HARDEST job I have ever experienced. I can remember as a young girl dreaming about being a Mom and how blissful it would be! Ignorance truly is BLISS! What I didn’t know, while I was dreaming, is how much work, prayer, and guidance I would need to have any success at all.
Recently, I faced a very difficult parenting moment with my youngest son, Walker. He was involved in a situation where he made a very wrong choice. As I learned about this event, he and I sat down and he shared that he had done what I was told and that he was really sorry. I could see the remorse in his eyes and the sadness in his heart but there was still more to discuss. He needed to understand why his choice was so wrong and how choices like this would lead to huge consequences as he continues to get older. We talked about the “Y” in the road that we face where we either make the right decision or the wrong one.
And then I asked him this question. “Walker, What would Jesus Do, in this same situation?” He paused and answered, “Not what I did, Mommy!”
One of the consequences of his choice was to sit and write “What would Jesus Do” 100 times. I feel like having the powerful question, engrained in his subconscious will help him navigate the decision and situations he will face for the rest of his life.
And this got me thinking, this question can serve us, as adults, well too! I know there are many times that if I had stopped and asked myself this question, my choice would have been different. It’s funny how when we are in the thick of parenting and working to teach our kids, we are also being taught ourselves.
So, I not only want to help my boys carry this question around with them, but I want to make sure it is one that I ask every time I am faced with a situation or a decision. Because, there is no doubt, Jesus will always point us in the right direction.
Every step we take is Progress, and it Matters!