Raising children is the HARDEST job I have ever experienced. I can remember as a young girl dreaming about being a Mom and how blissful it would be! Ignorance truly is BLISS! What I didn’t know, while I was dreaming, is how much work, prayer, and guidance I would need to have any success at all.
Recently, I faced a very difficult parenting moment with my youngest son, Walker. He was involved in a situation where he made a very wrong choice. As I learned about this event, he and I sat down and he shared that he had done what I was told and that he was really sorry. I could see the remorse in his eyes and the sadness in his heart but there was still more to discuss. He needed to understand why his choice was so wrong and how choices like this would lead to huge consequences as he continues to get older. We talked about the “Y” in the road that we face where we either make the right decision or the wrong one.
And then I asked him this question. “Walker, What would Jesus Do, in this same situation?” He paused and answered, “Not what I did, Mommy!”
One of the consequences of his choice was to sit and write “What would Jesus Do” 100 times. I feel like having the powerful question, engrained in his subconscious will help him navigate the decision and situations he will face for the rest of his life.
And this got me thinking, this question can serve us, as adults, well too! I know there are many times that if I had stopped and asked myself this question, my choice would have been different. It’s funny how when we are in the thick of parenting and working to teach our kids, we are also being taught ourselves.
So, I not only want to help my boys carry this question around with them, but I want to make sure it is one that I ask every time I am faced with a situation or a decision. Because, there is no doubt, Jesus will always point us in the right direction.
Every step we take is Progress, and it Matters!
What’s your “thing”? What is the quality, characteristic or attribute you possess that has gotten people’s attention? Sometimes, I don’t even think we realize we have a specific “thing” until a family member, friend or even a stranger brings it to our attention.
One of my most defining attributes in my laugh! But I will be honest and tell you that I didn’t realize it was unique until others pointed it out. My laugh was just my laugh! I mean it is the only way I know how to laugh. It wasn’t something I practiced or worked to perfect; it is just part of how God created me.
As a young girl, in a small town, the kids I went to school with were the ones who first brought my laugh and how LOUD and distinctive it is to my attention. Now at first, I felt myself want to hide from it. I didn’t want to stand out because I was the girl with the loud laugh. Can you relate? Is there something you either used to or still do hide or want to subdue about yourself because of what others say ir think?
I look back on my childhood and I don’t feel I was made fun of in a mean way about my laugh; at least not the majority of the time. And frankly, it wasn’t something I could change even if I wanted to. When I got tickled, I laughed and there was no holding back!
As an adult, I LOVE my laugh! I embrace it! It is ME!! Recently, I was texting with one of my best friends while I was in Dick’s Sporting Goods. In between texts, I laughed at something the sales clerk in the shoe department said to me. She immediately texted me back and told me she knew I was in Dick’s because she heard me! Clearly she was in Dick’s too but we didn’t know we were both there until my laugh gave it away!
I have learned that my laugh brings others joy and sometimes makes them laugh too! And that is a gift and a blessing as far as I am concerned.
I am sharing all of this with you to encourage you to stand tall and proud in every bit of who you are! Whether it is your laugh, smile, sneeze, the way you walk or run, your height, etc. it is YOU! And God created you wonderfully and to shine bright just as you are!
Be thankful for all the attributes that are unique to you. Don’t hide from them, no matter what anyone says. Allow every bit of you to shine bright and share your light with the world! Because no one else can shine YOUR light the way YOU can!
PS….In this week’s Progress Matters podcast I am elaborating more on this subject, making progress walking in my truth and prayerfully hoping that it encourages those who need it, to walk tall in your truth too! You can listen by clicking here: https://progress-matters.com/podcast
So, are you guilty of procrastinating? There are things you KNOW you need to do and are being called to do, but for some reason you can’t get your act together to get Moving?
Yes, ME TOO!! I can totally relate and am terribly guilty! God has been getting my attention this week about how my procrastination is the ENEMY!! I pray this message helps you to start moving where God is calling you to move like it is getting me to this week!
Every Step you take is PROGRESS, and it MATTERS! 🙂
Hey, Fit Friends!
I wanted to take a minute of your time to talk about moms and when it’s ok to take a break. I think sometimes, as mothers, we feel like we have to be “on” all the time, 24-7. I have to say, I completely disagree. I think moms need to take time to do things for themselves. I think moms need to take time to escape for a little while, to refuel, refocus and fill their souls up with things that really matter to them.
This last week I’ve been on a trip to Montana. It’s one of my absolute dream trips. I got to do it for the first time last year and it’s become an annual thing. It’s truly my happy place. It’s a place for me to go and completely unplug, unwind and just be me. Every once in awhile, it’s nice to not be a mom or a wife, but just be myself for a week. I get to enjoy the things that I love- horses, mountains, nature. It fills me back up again.
As all moms know, it’s never easy to leave for a trip. There’s a lot to think about before you get on that plane. There are a ton of things that need to be coordinated before you go in order to make sure your home and your kids are taken care of. Let’s face it, as moms and wives, we are the queens of our castle. We make it all run. We make it all flow, day in and day out. There’s so much that we do every day that our husbands may not even be aware of.
I’m a little bit of a control freak and a huge planner, so it takes a lot of preparation for me to be able to walk away from the house for a week and know that everything is going to be ok. I have learned and accepted that while I’m away, it’s ok that things aren’t getting done exactly the way mom would do them. Dad does things his way and that’s totally fine. I no longer worry if the boys’ hair is combed, or if their clothes match, I have let that go. I have decided those kinds of things are not really worth stressing over.
With all that said, I wanted to give you my top 5 tips for things to do before you leave town. When I complete these things before I leave, I know everything is ready. I know everything is in place and my boys will survive without me for a week.
- I do all the laundry. We’ve got baseball going on in our house, and both my boys have games and pictures and all kinds of things going on this week while I’m away. I wanted to make sure their uniforms were all clean and ready to go. On top of that, I just like to make sure all the laundry is done. This way, no matter what they choose to wear, at least I know it’s clean.
- I try to make meals easier. I have purchased some ready-to-heat meals from the grocery store that will be simple for dad to just pop in the oven. I’ve also make salsberry steak and sloppy joe mix so it’s at the ready for them. My husband will be working all day and then trying to get the boys dinner before getting them to their practices and games, and it can be tricky to prepare a meal in that short window between work and activities. It makes me feel better to know that they’re all eating well when I’m not home. I also make sure they have plenty of groceries in the house- fruits and vegetables, things for snacks and lunches, etc.
- I notify my sons’ teachers. I’m usually the go-to. I’m the one the school calls if there’s somebody gets sick, or if there’s an issue at school. While I’m away, it’s really important that they know my husband will be the contact, and I make sure to give them his cell phone number. We’ve also got some friends that are close by, so I let them know what’s going on just in case we need back up. It’s so important to have a network of moms that can help cover your back if need be.
- I coordinate care for the boys. I am normally here when they get home from school. My husband can’t be home every day when they get home from school, so I’ve enlisted the help of some neighborhood college girls who are home for the summer already. They will be here at our home waiting for the boys when they get home from school. I also make sure everyone has everyone’s contact information. Teachers, my husband, the babysitters, they all have each other’s phone numbers just in case.
- I take a deep breath. You know what? Being a mom and a wife is awesome. It comes with so much reward, but it also comes with a lot of work. When I’m about to go on a vacation and leave my role and my duties for a week, I’ve learned to just breathe. I trust that the system will run smoothly while I’m gone and if it doesn’t, they will figure it out along the way.
Yes, I’m a mom and I’m a wife, but I’m also a woman. I have things that are just about me. I don’t have to hold on so tightly to the role of mom and wife that I forget completely about the things that I love. Neither do you. I don’t believe in that. We have to fuel ourselves, or our tanks will run empty.
This vacation has allowed me to do that. I left knowing that my family was taken care of. Mom can take a break, and you can too. Maybe you have a trip coming up soon that you are looking forward to. I hope these tips will help you to leave with a peaceful mind and really enjoy yourself.
I believe that moms deserve a break. There are times when we just need to disappear for a week, or a few days and refuel. Sometimes we need to get grounded again before we step back into our roles as moms and wives.
I pray that when you take a trip, you are able to do it guilt free. Allow yourself to do something that you love, and know that your family will be taken care of and they’ll be just fine while you’re gone.
Y’all have a blessed day.